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My life is complicated. Two kids with disordered attachment that require a lot of time and energy and attention. They were both adopted as infants - don't try to tell me they don't remember (that's a whole other post). One is angry most of the time, and creates constant conflict in our family. The other needs a LOT of my time and affection to feel connected. We are fairly sure he has ADHD, struggles with impulse control, and with soci al skills. This requires constant supervision to keep him safe - both physically and emotionally. My husband has depression and anxiety. It doesn't just 'go away' with medication, and the above issues create triggers every day that make it a challenge for him to function, let alone be cheerful, or supportive, or get the household chores done. He also has since childhood had a serious congenital heart disease that will require a transplant, probably within the next 5 years. He's gained a lot of weight as a result o